Let’s be honest here, every single person has felt a twinge of jealousy at least once in their life, it could be when our parents looked at our sibling with a lot of affection after they came home with an award or made the “Honor Roll”. When our friend get’s that dream job and he/she will definitely be making more money than us – ugh! When you see a person who seems to have it all…looks, brains and money. The list goes on and on.
Jealousy is a complicated mixture of anger, fear, embarrassment, envy and betrayal that can be quite hard and painful to deal with. To make things a whole lot more complicated, do you know that women and men experience the jealousy in a different way? Little feelings of jealousy may be an inevitable part of any healthy relationship; but if it goes unchecked it can be very destructive – there are police records of people who have ended the lives of those they are jealous of.
By choosing to master a couple of simple techniques, you will be able to cope successfully when the feelings of jealousy are stirred up in you.
Acknowledge your Feelings
Experts recommend that you acknowledge your feelings, doing this will help you to identify the actual source of your jealousy. Are you feeling jealous that your co-worker got that promotion and not you? Sometimes, simply allowing yourself to feel jealous about a certain situation can help make your feelings of jealousy fade away.
Build your Relationship
For those in a marital or dating relationship, it is important that you build your relationship with your spouse/partner. The stronger your bond, the less likely that you will have jealousy issues in your relationship.
You should talk to your spouse/partner when you feel the timing is right to do so. You do not have to share each and every jealous twinge you have with your partner; however if you have a really serious or constant source of jealousy, you should ensure that you address it. Make sure that you use non-judgmental language such as “I feel” rather than “you always” and you should be very calm and go right to the heart of the matter. Make it clear to your partner that you want to start a discussion and not a shouting match.
Get involved in an activity that will help you to take your mind off your jealousy. You can have lunch with a close friend, go see a really funny movie, go dancing or simply do something that you enjoy doing. Obsessing over your jealousy feelings will only make them worse.
See an Expert
If your jealousy issues is becoming serious and you are entertaining thoughts of……let’s just say, you are entertaining thoughts of doing something that could put you away for a really long time, then it is time to seek professional help.